Ever since I bought my first computer in 1998, I've done online dating on and off throughout the years. Here, a mini look back:
In 98', it was all about "Chat rooms", where you would hop into a room, see if anyone was interesting, and hop into another room...my first online experience was with Adam, a Army scuba-diver who lived in Long Beach. He was very sweet, and he liked me, but when I asked who his dream girl was, he said Lara Croft from Tomb Raider. (Pre-Angelina Jolie movie.) So his dream girl was a video game, unattainable, unreal, etc. I have a thing for nerds, but he was over- the-top nerdy and living in a dream world. Checked off the list!
The next guy was named Joey, and he was a perv. He had the look of someone who could see through your clothes, and it was not a turn on, at least not in this case, lol. I was done with him when he said his favorite movie was "Major League". Seriously?! Minus 100 points! (this may make me seem like a bitch and uber picky...and maybe I am. But you like what you like, you know? And being into pop culture, I couldn't stand for that to be someones all time fave movie. What can I say, it matters!)
Anyhow, there were many others in between, and some of them actually turned into something, for a while at least. More recently there was Miles, the physicist student who I dated for a bit, he was freakishly naive and really tall and had a lovely...physique...however, when he said that all people who believe in God are stupid, I had to mark him off the list. (My family is religious, even if I am not, I was still offended, because he knew I have a religious family.) And the latest was Willie, an angry, narcissistic beast who I had fun with because he was dirty and bad and didn't mince words. However, when you are driving in a car with someone, and they tell you to adjust the mirror, and then they literally scream at you if you don't get it right, it's time to end it, at least in my book.
My whole feeling on dating is, I don't want to waste my time. I would rather be alone than just dating someone, if I don't see a future with him. (And by future I am NOT talking about marriage, picket fence, baby, the whole deal.) When I think future, can I imagine us lying on the couch in a year, still having things to talk about, not getting bored of that person, not having fights? (I hate fights.) Can I see us laughing, having fun together? If I can't, I end it.
I believe in "gut feelings". Your gut is almost always right. Follow it.
